The First Agreement: Be Impeccable With Your Word
Being “impeccable” with your word means that whenever you speak you should speak with integrity. I know it sounds so easy right? 🙂
- This one was a bit of a challenge for me because we live in a world that loves to focus on the negative. When you turn on the evening news you don’t see stories of people helping others…instead you see the guy that robbed a bank last Tuesday. Good doesn’t sell. Instead the majority of us are drawn to negativity. It’s almost like a trigger that goes off- when something bad happens or someone says something rude- suddenly it sparks our interest & we feel we have to react.
- Here’s the thing: just because there are people in this world that thrive on negativity, doesn’t mean you have to go along with it. You can choose a different path. You can say right now- today- in this very moment…I will not speak poorly about anyone or anything anymore. It’s hard at first because for so long we are programmed to gossip, to put down others and if everyone else is doing it, it’s a hell of a lot easier to just join in. Or you can say “as hard as this may be…i’m going to rise above the negativity”. I’m going to start living life on my terms instead of everyone else’s.
Do I have moments where I slip up every now and then? yes. Am I perfect? NO. But if you can even cut down the gossip by 50% you’re making progress.
I am going to use the “Halloween incident” again as an example…sorry Jules 😦
- Julianne made an innocent mistake, she never intended to hurt anyone and that’s the important thing. The paparazzi snapped a couple pictures…and before you know it..it’s front page news. Now here’s my problem with that: Huffington Post or whatever media outlet first broke the story made it into something it wasn’t…in order to create interest. That right there is an example of how NOT to be impeccable with your word.
- They should have never used their platform to slander a person’s character (celebrity or not). They should always convey the truth (even if it doesn’t sell or is not as interesting). But they have a monetary interest so that explains it…but being impeccable with your word is not something you can be selective about. It should be something you work into every part of your life.
- Then I read some of the things people said to Jules and they were downright hurtful. Being impeccable with your word is NOT calling someone names or being hateful towards them. Being Impeccable with your word is when you state that yes it hurt you, but you are willing to forgive. Also some of Julianne’s own fans made it even worth by arguing with people which only added fuel to the fire. You don’t react to hate with more hate. If someone calls you a name, calling them one back doesn’t make you any better.
- To be honest when people react hateful towards Jules or any other celebrity it is a reflection of them not Jules. “Judging a person does not define them- it defines you”
- Julianne and the people closest to her (like her family) know her true character and those are the only ones that matter. As fans we only see a small window of a person’s life…we don’t know what goes on so who are we to judge? And that goes for anyone- we have no idea why people are the way they are…all we see is the mask they wear in public. A lot goes on in people’s lives behind the scenes. They could be dealing with stuff we would never know about…so be kind to everyone.
- I respect what Julianne did in this situation. She issued a sincere apology to anyone who was hurt…and when the hateful comments came she didn’t react to them. When people say something hurtful just remember it is because they on some level are unhappy with themselves.
Sorry kind of got off topic there :)…but next time you go to speak bad about a person…reconsider. Words can really hurt people, so be kind.
Disclaimer: My thoughts only..I am not a professional so take this advice with a grain of salt 🙂 If you think it is the craziest thing you have ever heard…that’s ok too 🙂